The Dynamic of Fetish Fulfillment

September 21, 2011

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

I saw the post by [name and site omitted] and appreciated how many people came to Your defense.  I think that [name omitted] is griping about the fact that he was not permitted to do whatever he wanted to do, although Your rules are posted online and in the club.  I have attended a few of Your parties and always had a good time with good people who made me feel comfortable and at ease.  Please keep up the good work doing exactly what You’re doing… Sincerely, Tom


Thank you, Tom!

Because the selfish always believe they are above learning anything of value to contribute to what it is they desire to take from, they are ignorant to the fact that the Dynamic of Fetish Fulfillment is reciprocal.

This is not entirely their fault – the media and money-grubbing-exploiters are mucking up the concepts of Fetish en masse.

However, personal responsibility is always at the core of the realization of personal happiness and the fulfillment of one’s personal purpose – which IS the true purpose of indulging in The Fetish Lifestyle.

People need to accept responsibility for their contributions to the state of not only their own Fetish experiences, but the Fetish Scene on the whole – for good and for bad.

Always MY Pleasure,
Mss Didi*


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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and ClassicFetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

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