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Being Superior; My “How To” Process: Part 3 of 3 of “Domain Maintenance”

August 20, 2013

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

I see that the idiot-stalker is still trying to harass You. What’s the deal? You said You would tell what to do with creeps like this. What’s taking You so long to say what You’re doing about him so I can know what to do with the [expletive] that’s annoying me?

~ Miss Seamus

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Miss Seamus,

A better question is: Why are you following the loser’s activities? You seriously need to ask yourself: What are your motives for focusing on such negativity and inferiority? What does this say about you and what you’re REALLY committed to?

You want something from Me and didn’t bother to ask politely for My assistance; in fact, you barked like a cur to make a demand. So, now I add you to serve My purposes to demonstrate to those who are worthy of My gracious giving what I do to maintain My Domain, My Wellness, My Happiness, and eliminate idiots and idiocy.

The challenge for anyone who reads this is to notice your resistance as I present the most positive approach to wellness. The level of constriction that you feel in your body is a direct indication of how much negativity you are committed to maintaining in your life. Being aware of one’s resistance is a basic tenet of behavioral modification therapy.

This post is Part 3 of 3 of Domain Maintenance With Self-Love and Personal Integrity. In Part 1: False Friends and Allies In Lies, I offer how to care for yourself when your trust and kindness have been betrayed. In Part 2: Manipulation Tactics: Who’s Topping You?, I offer value to the person who encounters slanderous intentions that are designed to manipulate you. In this post, I will focus on exactly (1) how I USE offenders to serve Me better than if I paid someone to do My bidding, and (2) how I keep My cool and attend to My Karma, which is My most important concern.

In Part 1: False Friends & Allies In Lies, I wrote: “The best way for sheeple to avoid personal responsibility is to join in negativity against those who are doing/being/creating what they cannot do themselves.” In your case, you choose to focus on the negative aspects of this situation and operate from lower vibrations and lizard-brain thinking, rather than utilizing the positive resources and techniques I’ve generously presented in My posts — which is exactly what the loser you’ve uselessly attached yourself to chooses to do — and all of the other losers before, and inevitably after him, will choose such laziness in support of continued, cowardice and inferiority, too. By focusing on the lowest vibrations and choosing to operate at the lowest levels of existence, you refuse opportunities to improve your state of being. In other words, you neglect who and what you claim to LOVE in your life by obsessing on people who care nothing for or about you.

WARNING: If you don’t change your focus and improve your ways, you will also find yourself in the position where you are the cause for your significant other(s) cheating on you, too! And it will be YOUR FAULT because you neglected the love that exists in your life to obsess over ridiculous fantasies that you create about people who want nothing to do with you for reasons that you’ve also created.

I made it clear that I pay attention to the signs. I recognize that all the h8ters who connect to offenders’ inferiority (in whatever ways) will congregate in doing any-and-everything to take the focus off of their own self-h8tred and lack of personal responsibility for how crappy they create their lives to be. The h8ters serve Positive People by showing Us how We can strengthen Our Self-Love even more. We learn from adversity while h8ters further devolve into self-loathing and drag their families into hell with them.

I wrote: “A loser is someone who only seeks to take from situations and offer nothing – because they don’t believe they have anything of value to offer, and which they will always prove to be true. It’s easier for the losers and sheeple to choose to focus on negativity because it takes bravery to (1) face and accept one’s insecurities and (2) do work to improve one’s self. This is why the losers and sheeple are lazy cowards, which is reflected in their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual lives on all levels.” Part of this “personal avoidance process” is blaming everyone else for your failures and insisting that you are entitled to the fruits of others’ labors.

So, for MY purposes, I write this post and I keep My promise to the worthy folks who appreciate My Gifts and do their own work for their happiness by disclosing what I do to keep My cool, attend to My Karma, and Maintain My Domain.

How To Powerfully Pity The Pathetic

1) Practice an Attitude of Gratitude. Each and every day, I give thanks for ALL that I have and all that I AM. I realize that even though I may not have everything I desire, that I am so much more fortunate than the vast majority of people in the world. I begin each day before getting out of bed by counting a minimum of 10 things I am grateful for. This lifts My general attitude to begin My day and generates pleasure chemicals in My body for overall wellness (more and more scientific research proves this as fact)! For example, I am grateful that I have all of My senses, that I have food to eat, that I can walk (again!), that I have healthcare, and so many other things that people in Our own country don’t have – and the majority of people on the planet have even less. Of course, like just about every person who is part of a Westernized-culture, there are always things I desire to acquire. However, Winners know that by keeping Our focus on positivity and prosperity, We attract and create success.

2) Practice Forgiveness like a mutha#*! I begin by forgiving Myself for whatever “fantasies I imposed upon situations” – like expecting people to be true to their word and to behave in civilized manners. One of the keys to a peaceful life is to have no expectations – which is something that is extremely difficult to figure out how to do since We project Our desired outcomes onto everything We do. So, when I recognize that I set Myself up for a disappointment, I:

a) Forgive Myself and all involved for not living up to My “fantasy” of what coulda-shoulda-woulda been. I work to accept that “it is what it is” – hey sometimes stuff happens;

b) Get Over It And Move On to create My happiness. Moving on is the key because you cannot change the past, and harping on something that IS OVER AND DONE WITH disrupts your future; and

c) Recognize That There Is Only NOW. All of the energy spent on mulling over people who didn’t behave, and things that didn’t go, the way you wanted them to is time wasted from enjoying your life NOW, in the present, the Only Time There IS. There’s a reason it’s called the “present”: At every given moment, and from moment to moment, you have the ability to change what you don’t like about your life and create and empower what you do like. The present is the gift of power to create (tap into The Divine Energy), so make the most of it! I know this to be true and I live it!

3) LEARN From The Experience With Gratitude that I am smarter for having had it and now I know what NOT to do next time. Most recently, I learned to:

a) Follow My First Instincts and NOT Doubt Them. Again, I had to learn this lesson, but I’ve learned it now! I hold regular interviews for “club sub” positions for My (and other) events. I will never again give someone I dislike from the moment I meet them a chance to be in My Domain. And, when My Fetish Family tells Me they do not care for a person, I will dismiss him immediately without any second thoughts or chances.

b) NEVER AGAIN Permit Myself To Be Convinced To The Contrary Of My Instincts. I accept full responsibility for allowing a Domina I’ve known for years to convince Me to give someone I instantly disliked a chance and to share his services with Me. Had I followed My instincts, I would not have engaged in a cooperative collaboration with Her in the first place – not anything against Her, but because his energies AND BEHAVIOR were inferior and distasteful. And even after seeing that he was completely wrong for My Domain, as a cooperative courtesy to Her, I went against My instincts to dismiss him sooner. Here’s the REALITY: I understand that She ALSO wanted to dismiss him sooner, but went against Her instincts as a cooperative courtesy to Me! I will NEVER go against My instincts and comforts again.

c) Observe My Thoughts That Led Me Down This Road. I spent the past 8 years dealing with a debilitating injury that destroyed much of My life. EVERY day was a battle in pain and depression. Because I am FABULOUS and a WINNER, I refused to become a loser because of financial and property losses from living in 24/7-non-stop pain. I believe in My Greatness and I tried everything I could to improve My State of Being. Though I often felt I wanted to, I refused to give up. This process has been extremely difficult, but I am worth the effort! I chose to heal, and I am in the process of becoming better than I’ve ever been before. So, I have tremendous compassion for people who have to deal with illness of any kind.

However, I have NO CONSIDERATION for people who use their illnesses as weapons against others; in other words, as manipulation tools against your compassion to bully you to excuse their heinous behavior and lack of personal responsibility – especially to disobey orders as a so-called-submissive. Belligerent insistence on attempting to top-from-the-bottom is NEVER excusable as there is NEVER a reason to break your agreement to serve as I decide for MY Domain. I am most generous, not unreasonable, and I do not EVER require any activity that would be contrary to anyone’s wellness, especially Mine. I have made allowances for people who fail(ed) to live up to the opportunities I have given them. I will not do this again.

People who refuse to improve their diets, exercise, practice physical and mental wellness techniques, and especially, refuse to develop emotional maturity to improve their conditions and lives will ALWAYS BE DISMISSED FROM MY DOMAIN and/or be refused admittance to it. If you are/are not working on a solution for your life condition, you will NOT be My problem. My Domain is ONLY for people who brave to be Fabulous Winners, too. The question for all others is: With Us, the people you desire to associate with, as examples, why are you not inspired to choose to be your best?

4) Protect My Domain. Read “Safety Tips for Dommes”

a) Take Advantage of The Assistance of Friends In High Places. Let’s just say that I am most fortunate that I don’t have to do anything; everything is being handled for Me by people with legal authority and power. While I ignore (muted, blocked, etc.) this loser’s desperate attempts to gain My attention, he’s continued to build irrefutable evidence for legal action that I will take against him if he insists on making it necessary. In fact, he obviously misunderstands the totality of the Confidentiality Agreement that he signed and which is on file. If any intelligence exists, he will cease stupidities and handle his home life NOW before he loses everything.

Which brings Me to:

5) Pity The Fool (see Pity The Self-Loathing – note the date I posted this writing). While I am a Sadist, and I always make offenders useful to Me in a variety of ways they seldom consider, I have a tremendous amount of compassion – which, like My kindness, is all too often, foolishly mistaken for weakness. I use this to My advantage should someone insist on receiving retribution – even though, I feel sorry for these offenders because:

a) While these types somehow convince themselves that what they do is not cheating, lying, etc., they never consider that their significant others are cheating on and lying to them, which is inevitably the outcome when you neglect those you’ve committed to. This is why in My previous posts I have advised losers to:

i) Focus on what’s going on in their own lives instead of trying to obsess over their twisted fantasies about Me and Mine;

ii) Get a clue – they ALL think they are “special” while anyone can see that they are all, boringly alike – as evidenced by My articles, blog posts, tweets, etc., written YEARS ago. I merely take the opportunity to reiterate at appropriate times if it amuses Me to benefit from their inane stupidity;

iii) Pay attention to loving the people they claim to care about (e.g., being better parents and spouses) instead of trying to h8te people who care nothing for or about them. Quite frankly, I’m done caring more about losers’ families than they do; and

iv) Pay attention to the magnitude of My statement that it’s a privilege to have resourceful friends in High Places setting them up if they don’t back down. It can never be said that I do not give numerous warnings.

b) I understand that such people who choose h8tred – whether via politics; religion; making enemies of their neighbors; etc. – need psychiatric and spiritual help. As I stated in Part 2: Manipulation Tactics: Who’s Topping You?:

“… most people operate from lower vibrations and lizard-brain thinking because that’s the typically lazy way to exist, their failures and fears must be the fault of everything and everyone else who IS successful in doing the work in their own lives for their own happiness.”

I feel sorry for these cowards because of how horrible it must be to insist that you are not good enough, smart enough, anything of value to the point that you are too afraid to be better than a loser? To not love yourself? And, therefore, failing at loving your wife, your children, or anyone else in truth?

“A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

And, when cowards encounter people who are Winners, their fear is exaggerated to the point of inevitable self-destruction – which manifests as family troubles, e.g., children who are sex and substance abusers; neighbors who despise and conspire against you, cheating spouses, etc. Such cowards are so intent on self-loathing that they destroy what goodness Winners could ever see in them because they don’t believe the goodness within them is real. That is extremely sad and pitiable.

c) I Always Have Hope and Prayers. First and foremost, for My Karma, because I Love Myself, I choose to always send positive vibrations to those who seek to make themselves enemies – especially when they go out of their way to offend Me! I choose NOT to have enemies because that would just add negativity and ugliness to My Domain and take away from The Beauty of Life: the wonderful people who love and care for Me; how I see the world; how much fun I am able to have living My life. I understand that when you send energy, you must be careful not to be manipulative with your intentions because (1) thoughts are energy and have power and (2) that would be imposing your will upon someone else’s life. If you believe in any type of God Energy, all religious/spiritual doctrines (except for the popular, “subjugation religions”) say that humans were given free-will and the right to be happy. I always hope offenders will choose to be better in every way, but better in any way will be an improvement.

d) I completely DETACH from offenders and their shenanigans. Seriously, I don’t care for or about them and keep My focus on My Joy, BetterFetish™, and BETTER everything than they could possibly be or have been to Me.

e) I honor My Sadism. When these morons get excited by their silly fantasies of power in My Domain, I use them for articles, blog posts, make money off of them, etc. When I’m done using them, I move onto useful pursuits. Smarter offenders move on with their lives. Stupid offenders continue with their desperate need for attention… and pay… in every way…

4) I Keep My Focus And Energies Evolving Towards Being The Best I Can Be, as is evident in My writings – even when I’m bitchy. I strongly recommend to EVERYONE to read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. In fact, I give this book as a gift to those whom I mentor and I have recently decided that it will be required reading for those who wish to serve in My Domain, as well. The Four Agreements are:

Be impeccable with your word;
Don’t take anything personally (because people are operating from their own fantasies about your reality, as well as their own);
Don’t make assumptions; and
Always do your best.

Practicing The Four Agreements is quite the rewarding challenge. Every day, I benefit from these simple concepts and lead a happier life with each day being better than the day before!

As for the actual steps to completely stop stalkers (and punish them for their offenses), I’m going to conduct a webcam workshop with step-by-step guidelines on how to destroy offenders if they don’t stop harassing you. Join My Mailing List to be notified of dates and fees.

It’s people like you, Miss Seamus, who always serve to remind Me not to cast My Pearls before the lazy who wish to benefit from My work and knowledge while not even being polite enough to ask for – and Goddess-knows, never offer gratitude for – My assistance. Now, anyone who’s interested can pay for My time and expertise, or do all the research and footwork themselves.

Good luck.

More Resources

Resources for Victims or Witnesses of Hate Crimes | The New York County District Attorney’s Office

Keeping Cool With Karma

How To Handle Lizard-brain Thinking Attacks

How To Deal With Relationship Gossip

Transcending Malicious Liars

Consider The Source

Pity The Self-Loathing

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips“) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD.

Manipulation Tactics: Who’s Topping You? Part 2 of 3 “Domain Maintenance”

July 7, 2013

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

… You have some nerve requesting to post Your event in our group when You’ve called some of our sisters, “fat bitches” and … what people say about You …

(The rest of the rant was omitted to protect the identity of this individual. I have personally and privately emailed the following to her. Once again, My practice of observing synchronicity aligns all to serve My purposes!)

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Dear Miss P,

This is Part 2 of 3 of Domain Maintenance With Self-Love and Personal Integrity. In Part 1: False Friends and Allies In Lies, I offer how to care for yourself when your trust and kindness have been betrayed. In this post, I offer value to the person who encounters slanderous intentions that are designed to manipulate you. Part 3 will focus on exactly (1) how I USE offenders to serve Me better than if I paid someone to do dirty work, and (2) how I keep My cool and attend to My Karma, which is the most important concern.

I am also in the process of creating a workshop/webinar to teach you how to guide offenders to set themselves up with irrefutable proof of their offenses to be controlled with legal action and the least amount of effort.

Personal Responsibility

Avoidance of Personal Responsibility Tactics. We have choice in EVERYTHING in Our lives – which makes you both the power and the problem in your life. How We choose determines the quality of all experiences and lessons that make life a joy or a hell.

Whenever some self-loathing creature attempts to invade and usurp My Domain (or yours), they believe that what I say about Myself is as much of a lie as what they say about themselves. When they see that I AM Who I say I am:

(1) they recognize that they are LYING about who they want to believe they are and the familiar panic of insecurity comes to the surface,

(2) they are threatened and terrified by their fears of not being good enough in all of the ways they invalidate their own existence, and

(3) being lazy cowards, they choose distraction via any form of negativity for and/or about others in order to avoid how negatively they feel about themselves – hence the success of the numerous “reality” TV shows with revolting people that self-loathers need to denigrate for this “personal avoidance process”.

Since (sadly) most people operate from lower vibrations and lizard-brain thinking because that’s the typically lazy way to exist, their failures and fears must be the fault of everything and everyone else who IS successful in doing the work in their own lives for their own happiness. And since We live in a world of “sheeple” who follow all kinds of wicked-ridiculousness to feed on negativity to avoid personal responsibility, there are always lots of other sheeple who will choose to jump on the “ugly bandwagon” as part of their own personal avoidance processes.

Losers. A loser is someone who only seeks to take from situations and offer nothing – because they don’t believe they have anything of value to offer, and which they will always prove to be true. Since they have no personal value, losers cannot recognize or appreciate value anywhere else and spend their lives unfulfilled and running their personal avoidance processes.

It’s easier for the losers and sheeple to choose to focus on negativity because it takes bravery to (1) face and accept one’s insecurities and (2) do work to improve one’s self. This is why the losers and sheeple are lazy cowards, which is reflected in their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual lives on all levels. The problem is that negative energy is a worse addiction than heroin, crack, and crystal meth combined. As with any addiction, more and more of the toxin is needed until the addicted completely destroys her/himself and the people who try to love her/him. See the miserable cycle of how they foster their own failures?

Remember, this is their choice from laziness and cowardice. We know that there are a lot of pathetic nutjobs out here who demonstrate just how much they h8te themselves by just how much work they will put into trying to destroy what you’re doing, instead of taking one-tenth of that time and effort to improve their own lives.

In Our particular experience, losers have taken hours-days-weeks to contact every person in social groups to spread lies about Us – and even created false identities to corroborate their stories! How pathetic it must be that the fake personas they make up are the only validation they have – which is NO validation! The sheeple attracted to avarice are also losers, so do the math: 0 + 0 = 0.

Manipulation Tactics

Here’s where Personal Responsibility is key because you have to be brave and practice self-awareness. Remember, Self-Loving people are not afraid to face themselves. In fact, for people who have Self-Value, it is a wonderful experience to be with yourself and explore, experience, and enjoy all of Who You Are and Who You Are Becoming.

Remember, losers are desperate and will do any and everything they can to feel something because they are dead inside – which is the result of lacking self-love and an addiction to negativity. Because losers lack self-value, living is actually painful and distasteful for them and they are jealous of people who enjoy life to the point that they want to destroy Us. So, instead of doing work to improve and evolve, they spend exorbitant amounts of time on “activities for devolution” and ways to suck everyone down with them. Remember that losers want and need everyone else to lose, too. How pathetic.

So, when you encounter malicious conversation about a person, it is an amazing opportunity for you to choose to love or not love yourself. Observe:

1) What is your first thought and feeling? Do you wonder why someone would go to such lengths to malign another person? contact you, a stranger, pretending to be concerned for you, only to complain about something they claim was done to them? Or do you just go for the gossip? It takes a strong mind and a self-loving person to disengage from gossip and gossip is the language of losers. It’s like a farmer yelling, “sooo-eeee” for all the pigs to come and eat slop.

2) What trigger words are used in the attack? Trigger words are usually group-specific with the purpose of soliciting agreement based on the group’s dynamic. My experience has always been that the loser targets Women and females with over-weight slurs he claims I said because since I AM fit and healthy and THIS IS THE KEY AREA OF INSECURITY for Women and females, in particular. Trigger words often center on claims of a person’s vanity/conceit, possessions/lack of possessions, and anything that can be construed to be against a particular group’s interests. The process is to incite your insecurity to suck you into the negativity vortex to be manipulated for the loser’s goals.

3) Do you choose to believe the gossip? Why or why not? Here’s where it gets interesting and scary and where laziness, self-worth, and intelligence are exemplified: Do you have any personal experience or knowledge at all of the people involved? Without a doubt, the person being maligned usually has LOTS of information available about them and IS actually doing valuable things in the community. The person spreading the gossip inevitably has a shallow – if any – public presentation and offers NOTHING to the community, of course. Do you research on your own or just feed on the gossip? The losers are counting on you being lazy and one of them by giving you slop to feed on.

The bottom line is that you either have the control in your life or you permit yourself to be manipulated by your own insecurities and potential for avarice by someone who represents the worst in the potential of a human being.

The question is, how much do YOU love yourself to be strong and Self-Determined, or to be weak and led to the slaughter of your own self-esteem and happiness?

There is a Universal Law of Attraction that says you attract to you how you are. I will discuss in Part 3 not only how to handle making sense of nutjobs popping up when We are doing Our thing, Our way, and trying to do the right thing, but also how to use them for Our personal evolution and success.

In the meantime, understand that The Law of Attraction works for losers in self-defeating ways. While they believe that they achieve something – which is only a false sense of self-elevation by attempting to destroy what We’ve built – they will quickly fester in the cesspool of their reality once again, feeling and being even more the losers that they really are, and less that there is value to their continued living. Their lives will continue to exponentially decline and illness is inevitable from not only all of the toxins that build up in the body from practicing intense negativity, but as a result of their Karma.

So, what and who defines you? Do you love yourself? Or do you align with self-loathers to avoid personal responsibility? It’s your choice to choose Quality of Being over quantity of distraction from personal evolution and happiness.

More Resources

Keeping Cool With Karma

How To Handle Lizard-brain Thinking Attacks

How To Deal With Relationship Gossip

Transcending Malicious Liars

Consider The Source

Pity The Self-Loathing

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

False Friends & Allies In Lies – Part 1of 3 “Domain Maintenance”

June 6, 2012

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

I have watched for some time how people who have benefited from You have turned on You. I am also dealing with someone who called himself a friend saying horrible things about me now and trying to destroy my business and position in the Scene. You always seem to overcome abuse and keep going. Please tell me how to do this. Thank You, Miss P

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Part 1 of 3 of Domain Maintenance With Self-Love and Personal Integrity

Dear Miss P.,

I have listed a few resources at the end of this post – please note the dates that they were written. You will see that losers are never original; they just keep popping up — which is a sad sign of the decline of civilization and, particularly, of The Scene.

Since We can never KNOW what is going on in another person’s head – most of the time, they lie to themselves, so they’re not even aware – We must ALWAYS choose to do what’s best for Our own wellness.

What I have learned over a lifetime is that people are attracted to Us by 2 things:

1) what makes them comfortable about how they perceive Us. Using My own experience of a “friend” who outted My fiance and is a leading cause in his death, she was attracted to My ability to create excitement and fun — as long as I was injured to the point that I could not surpass her ability to be creative (As you know, I am recovering from a crippling fall down a flight of marble stairs); and

2) what they believe that they are/have BETTER than We are/have. she (somehow) considered her husband a major “achievement” in her life. While I was partner-less and confined to bed most of the time, she called Me her “best friend” – probably because I was her misery-therapist. All was fabulous while she could use Me to endure her litany of self-degradation, the world-is-woe, and why-bother-since-things-will-go-sour-anyway views of life. As soon as I began treatments to improve My 24/7 pain and regain My life, she began to change and poo on My aspirations. And when I met the love of My life, her every conversation was designed to thwart My happiness. Poor thing probably didn’t even know she was doing this and, of course, is too much of a coward to face what would prompt her to do so.

This was very hurtful to Me because although I could see the type of person she was, I always had hope that she would evolve and live up to being the success she claimed she desired to be. However, I PAID ATTENTION TO THE SIGNS and even told her how her behavior would end Our friendship. I also wasn’t stupid enough to share everything (like My real submissives) in My life with her because I knew that her self-sabotage would spill over into disrupting My good things for Me. And as I got better and better, she increasingly came face-to-face with her beliefs in her own inferiority and with her jealousy.

Now, understand that no matter what you say or do, people who believe in their own inferiority WILL be inferior for themselves first, and therefore, to everyone else in every way. And since like-attracts-like, all other h8ters who identify with their inferiority will congregate in doing any-and-everything to take the focus off of their own self-h8tred. The best way for sheeple to avoid personal responsibility is to join in negativity against those who are doing/being/creating what they cannot do themselves. Quite frankly, these people SERVE YOU by rounding up all of the other “less-thans” who will inevitably be useless to you, too, and keeping them away from annoying you.

The Process of Making Peace

1) Check In before you flip out. Acknowledge your feelings and thoughts before considering anything about anyone else. KNOW that one of the reasons for being on this planet is for Our souls to learn lessons and that being vulnerable and trusting is NOT a bad thing. When you can accept your feelings and consciously choose what to do with them, you have the control – and no one else.

2) Accept that We are NOT all created equal. The very notion of that statement is insulting to each individual’s special qualities. Just one problem that arises from this ridiculous notion is that people who exhibit and insist upon operating with inferior qualities believe they deserve the rights to what those of Us who actually create superior existences above their mundane realities have. Differences should always be respected and looked upon as opportunities to learn, but avaricious behaviors are grounds for ostracization for the benefit of all those who ARE worthy of your talents and energies. You are NOT wrong to acknowledge that someone is NOT on your level and does not deserve the same consideration and respect that you worked for when they have done nothing.

3) Reconsider your attachments to the past without judging yourself for having had the experiences to learn lessons about yourself to evolve into being better than you’ve ever been before. One of the worst habits We are taught from birth is to make yourself wrong for … everything! Logically: how can you know something without actually having the experience? You can NOT know; one can only suppose, but not know in Truth. Granted, We give people the benefit of the doubt. But, to paraphrase Dr. Phil, why give anyone the benefit of the doubt; they need to prove worthy of your trust. Each and every experience brings you to a new self-awareness. When you focus on that, offenders have value to you that they don’t even have for themselves.

4) Rid yourself of animosity and denigration with gratitude. This gets easier and more enjoyable with practice – just like exercise and eating in healthy ways. Remember, one of the many problems with losers is that they see the world as a continuous set-up for loss. No matter what is presented to them, they play the make-wrong and victim games because at the basis of their existence is the belief that they are wrong for existing. And since they’re lazy, petty, and pathetic by choice, they always prove their beliefs about themselves to be true in every way. Since they can’t face their ugliness, they want to take it out on you and they will test you. THANK them for giving you the opportunity to move into the next phase of your fabulous evolution and pity them (don’t waste much energy here) that they insist on devolving. Practice being grateful for even the “turdy” things in your life and your life will exponentially become happier – and you will avoid having that ugly look that people who choose to be losers have etched into their faces. Gratitude sets you up for the WIN – something that losers NEVER have – no matter what they do.

5) No matter what, it is your duty to protect your domain. Of course, if necessary, prove offenses are affecting your life and business and, by all means, file police reports, report offenders to the FBI for stalking, even send a cease-and-desist letter (preferably via an attorney, but not always necessary) immediately prior to serving the a-hole with a lawsuit for damages – which will OUT them publicly. (Cowards don’t want that – they’re usually too busy trying to provide lies of how great they want to be perceived to a fake world of “friends”.) Once these people are on the “radar,” they stay on the radar and are regularly investigated. I’ve said it before, the internet is a wonderful thing and everything you do is monitored. If one has no nefarious intentions, one should have no concerns for “privacy” regarding their activities or the punishment of those who are offenders in other people’s domains.

Making It Work

Here’s the scary thought you have to ask: What was I thinking about Myself to attract her/him to Me? to consider her/him a friend? When you take responsibility for how you are disappointed in any situation, you are able to transcend the disappointment and grow from the lesson.

I recognize that I was depressed, in pain, unable to enjoy My life, and unable to create to the best of My abilities. It sucked! Whenever you are at the lowest moments in your life, lower-life-forms can sneak into your zone because (1) your vision of yourself is tainted by despair and (2) since they are attracted to your greatness, it is only your despair makes them believe that they can be on your level. These kinds of people base their own worth on the qualities of other people they try to surround themselves with – which has nothing to do with them in reality. It’s a superficial projection from what you are/have onto the vision they want to believe about themselves.

Superficiality always reveals truth. This is why when your success grows, they become shady. Then, they have the audacity to become disgruntled when they’re kicked out (as they always are) of a group of people who TRULY ARE VALUABLE because (i) they seek and insist upon Us sharing their qualities of inferiority and (ii) they refuse to face that they are NOT LIKE US and, most likely, never will be. And, in true fashion of the inferior, it is always YOU who did something to them (just for being Who You Are) and YOUR FAULT that they (insert any failure here) because losers never accept responsibility for their actions. And they will go to their graves believing their lies — even when proof of their offenses is documented and presented to the authorities.

I admit that I recognized her true value from the very beginning of Our relationship, but chose to enjoy the best she had to offer while it lasted. This does not mean that I didn’t love her; I love her for who she was in My life and I release her for who she chooses to be. Practicing loving and caring for Myself permits Me to release offenders with love. I always have hope that they will stop h8ting themselves and improve the quality of their lives to BE HAPPY. The more happy people there are in the world, the better the world will be. I always have hope, but I waste no time or energy being concerned about the choices they make for themselves. When I’m done, I’m done. It’s intelligent to discard trash, there is no value in entertaining it.

The most important thing and Our primary responsibility for the Gift of Life is to cherish and make the most of each moment. By focusing on trying to understand why someone does something against you is wasting precious time to maintain and enjoy what is good in your life – which can and will disrupt your future happiness. Your love and care for yourself is infinitely more important than anyone else you permit into your life.

We all have a choice. We can either make Ourselves miserable in the present into the future, whining and pining about how We perceived the past, OR We can love them for who they were in Our lives and release them for who they choose to be.

Forgive them for disappointing you and forgive yourself for attaching so much relevance to others. If you do not love yourself most, you cannot love anyone else with the proper appreciation. This explains why these creatures offend those who were kind to them; they do not love themselves and cannot receive love. People get into toxic relationships because they are not appreciating their own self-worth. We have all been there and done that; it is only when We learn from the experience that We can be free to BE HAPPY.

But We, Ourselves, must be brave to learn the lessons. I have once again learned NOT to take pity on people due to their illnesses because most people use their illnesses to manipulate you into tolerating their bad behavior and their refusal to exercise self-control. I acknowledge that I’ve gotten caught up in My own suffering of pain during the past 7 years and My own life of illnesses, and I have given people opportunities they did not deserve. The difference between Me and them is that I strive for wellness. And, when their attachment to inferiority manifested in ugly ways, I (1) “BRAVED My issues” and took a good look at how I wasn’t loving Myself enough to permit them near Me and (2) I’ve re-committed to loving Myself by LEARNING THIS LESSON for the last time!

**KEY: When you can thank offenders (find value in them) for the lessons they’ve offered you to fortify your greatness, they have no power over you.**

I’ve also learned to follow My instincts; when I immediately dislike someone, I will not permit anyone else to convince Me to “give them a chance” or permit them in My Domain ever again. Self-loathers never appreciate opportunities. You will never live up to the unrealistic expectations they have of YOU because the more you are Who You ARE and do What You DO, the more they are reminded of what they are NOT.

As for the disgruntled creature’s attempts to destroy what’s yours, remember that these types of people ARE inferior because they believe they are inferior and behave in ways to prove their beliefs. they h8te themselves. Anyone who jumps on the bandwagon to believe negative tales about others with NO personal experience is also inferior — like attracts like. These people are also lazy; they don’t bother to do anything to improve their own abilities; it’s easier for them to complain about you with other miserable people. And it’s even easier for them to try to destroy what valuable folks create than for them to stop being cowards and take responsibility for, and steps to, improve themselves. Trust Karma.

In reality, it’s not about them; it’s all about you. The most powerful thing you can do is to be “enough” to and for yourself and keep your focus on what is important in your present to create a happy future. Like attracts like. The people who ultimately matter always recognize the “reindeer games” perpetrated by fakers. When you are focusing on being your best, the people with the same focus and abilities will be attracted to you and visa-versa.

As My Grandmother always said (It completely annoys Me that people accredit Taylor Swift for an adage that’s been around long before her parents were born):

Remember, creeps throw rocks at things that shine. Shine brilliantly! Those who are worthy will revel in your brilliance; those who are not will incinerate for trying to snuff out your Light!

And they will inevitably refuse to accept their own responsibility for the consequences of their heinous actions and insist that all of it is your fault, too…

I hope that I have provided you some comfort and do check the resources I’ve offered to assist your Life Journey in Happiness. All the best to you because that’s what you deserve.