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How To Stop A Stalker


March 2020

Link corrections are made to this article as I am made aware of them.

June 28, 2016 provides an excellent resource on cyberstalking and what to do if you are a victim, along with a very, cool app! CallerSmart helps you identify mystery callers and block those you don’t want to hear from ever again. Definitely check it out!

And thanks to Callersmart for these resources:

  • Wired Safety has a plethora of information and resources including on sexting, sextortion, and revenge porn for all you pervs…

January 12, 2012

Dear Mistress Didi*,

I am sorry to hear about Your unfortunate circumstances with [name of stalker omitted], especially after all that You did for him. I want to thank You for providing anti-stalking resources in Your Newsletter and ask if I may reprint Your article to assist others who have to deal with similar horrors? Sincerely, Sir WLX

Dear Sir WLX,

It is My pleasure to give You ~ and anyone else who wishes to share the safety resources I’ve provided against STALKING ~ permission to do so. I ask that You please provide a link back to My Resources Page so that as many people as possible will have access to opportunities for positive growth and joy.

For anyone reading this reply who is not aware of the heinous activities that caused Me to cooperate with the FBI, it is My intention that, by making the public aware of his lascivious behavior, the offender is prompted to seek psychiatric and emotional health assistance so that no one else nor his children will be victims of his vicious behaviors, such as the injuries he has caused to My submissive and his children. (See also: Warning: This year’s stalker…)

NOTE: October 2, 2018 – For up-to-date resources, see The United States Department of Justice National Institute of Corrections.

FBI Reports on Stalking. The Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS) has released Stalking Victimization in the United States. The special report presents findings on nonfatal incidents based on the largest data collection of such behavior to date. The report is available at the BJS website,, and at the National Criminal Justice Reference Service’s website,, under NCJ 224527.Stalking Resource Center~What can I do if I am a victim of stalking? If you are a victim of stalking, call your local police department’s emergency number (911) to report… Read More Last Updated: November 25, 2011~ What kind of behavior is considered stalking? Comprehensive information about stalking is available in the Office of Community Oriented Policing Services (COPS) publication, Stalking. Visit the Crime: Stalking section of our Web site and the Stalking Resource Center Web site for additional information. Last Updated: January 05, 2011The National Institute of Justice defines stalking: “Like domestic violence, stalking is a crime of power and control. Stalking is conservatively defined as “a course of conduct directed at a specific person that involves repeated (two or more occasions) visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communication, or verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof, that would cause a reasonable person fear” (cite omitted). Stalking behaviors also may include persistent patterns of leaving or sending the victim unwanted items or presents that may range from seemingly romantic to bizarre, following or laying in wait for the victim, damaging or threatening to damage the victim’s property, defaming the victim’s character, or harassing the victim via the Internet by posting personal information or spreading rumors about the victim. The overwhelming majority of victims are women (78 percent), and the majority of offenders (87 percent) are men. Nearly 60 percent of women and 30 percent of men are stalked by a current partner.” Read more…

~ Who can I contact to help me develop a safety plan? If your local police department employs a victim advocate, he/she maybe able to help you … Read More Last Updated: November 22, 2011

~Because too many “law enforcement professionals” have the wrong attitudes to accompany their lack of knowledge and awareness regarding stalking (just look at the judge’s decision regarding Selena Gomez’s stalker), Responding to Stalking: A Guide for Community Corrections Officers  UPDATE: March 2020 USDOJ Stalking articles

~ UPDATE March 2020 –  Signs of a Stalker: Are You Being Followed?  and  Stalking and Domestic Violence  include resources for state and federal laws regarding stalking offenses.

~ How much do you know about stalking? Take The Stalking Awareness Quiz. How much you don’t know will scare you…

~ Other Web Resources on Stalking


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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and Classic Fetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

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