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Surprised That I’m A Giving Goddess?

July 23, 2011

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

It was really a pleasure to meet You last night.  After hearing rumors about You and [name omitted], I was very surprised that you are so kind and friendly.  You treated me as if I mattered and I now understand that [name omitted] is jealous for more than the obvious reasons…. Sincerely,  j


I’m always astounded by the ridiculous misconception that to be a Dominant Sadist means to be ill-mannered, ill-tempered, selfish, greedy, and everything that the “hoochies-with-whips” abominate The Scene by being.

As I state on My Websites, I am a Giving Goddess.  I do not wish to ever raise My voice, I prefer to make requests rather than demands, and I prefer to reward rather than to punish.

So, whenever I offer a Gift to The Community, I am saddened by the comments of appreciation including statements such as, “It’s nice to know that there are still kind people out there.”

It’s also disparaging that those who are offenders of The Scene have the ludicrous audacity to be offended when their offenses are not tolerated in My Domain.  they band together with others of their kind to call Me “elitist” and a bitch.  their lack of vocabulary comprehension is only slightly less than their lack of integrity.

First of all, I’m a BITCH = Being In Total Control of Herself (My Domain) and the only reason they’re whining is because they’re used to the “silly bitch syndrome” that their mothers effected by permitting them to believe that they are special without offering value to The Whole.

Second, if desiring to be around people with class, integrity, self-respect, and consideration makes Me elitist, I’m proud to be an elitist *snob* on top of that.  I’m not a hypocrite; if I don’t respect a person, I don’t have anything to do with her/him.

I recognize My value by how I present Myself and My Gifts to The Whole.  I walk My talk.   I am secure enough in Myself to know that I do not lose anything when I share My beauty, talents, etc.  Karma is a magnificent thing; what you offer returns to you multiplied.

Intelligent people know that kindness does not equal weakness.  In fact, kindness gives you a powerful tool of revelation: people show you how they want to be treated.  Being a sadist, I will take the opportunity to torture them with enlightenment, which, in itself, is a win-win for Me because I offer a Karmic good.

I return to My Mission of creating a Domain of honor, intelligence, creativity, beauty, and the opportunities for personal evolution through The Fetish Lifestyle.  I realize that more than ever, My Mission is in place to serve the need of The Greater Good.

And I’m excited and energized by this!


If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*.  Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning.  Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD.  As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking.  In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and Classic Fetish™ Events.  She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

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