Chill Out Training Technique: The Tapping Solution

UPDATE: October 4, 2020

I offer this technique that has scientific backup, as well as My personal experience to attest to how well it can work if you work it.

October 27, 2013

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

You trained My submissive in a variety of techniques that he constantly used and began sharing with Me before his untimely death.  There was one that he used all of the time whenever he felt nervous or distressed that worked wonders, and I did not get the opportunity to learn.  I noticed that he would pat himself in specific areas of his body.  Would You please tell Me what this technique is and how I can learn more about it?

Your Friend, Domina D


Dear Domina D,

I will use My response as an Ask Mss Didi* post to share with many others.


I state on My websites, profiles, everywhere, that I have NO interest in controlling anyone and that Self-Control is the ONLY control there is. I don’t see the purpose of having anyone around Me who lacks self-control… hence, the dismissal of the unworthy.

EVERYTHING is a choice; We usually choose the lesser suffering… or so We think.

So, when I offer a technique that has scientific proof, as well as personal experience and testimonials from people I respect, to assist in training, I sit back and permit Myself to be amused.

Let’s be clear that “training” begins and ends with YOU because, as with everything else, whatever occurs, it is your choice how you choose to deal with things. We are domesticated (trained) by social, religious, family, etc., “dick-tations” that We spend a lifetime trying to figure out how to evolve from. The bottom line is: You are either in control of Your own destiny or You are controlled by how you give your power away.

See Manipulation Tactics: Who’s Topping You?

Since it seems that so many people have lost their minds (what little they had to begin with), and the rest of Us are annoyed with having to keep Our cool, I am going to offer a simple technique that I share with My friends and give to My submissive trainees. I support My friends in their development – as long as they choose to improve – I don’t tolerate whining and insistence on inferiority.

I let the submissive prove their worth; those who practice the technique excel – not only in their training with and for Me, but in all areas of their lives. The “substandards” (and people who insist on maintaining mediocrity and drama) ignore the technique in whatever ways-for whatever, lame reasons and commit to remaining failures.  they are dismissed.

Please NOTE that I swear by this technique for Myself and it totally works for Me and everyone who chooses to work it.  Tapping is a physiological-neurolinguistic technique that you can learn in less than 4 minutes (see video). There is an accompanying book and a movie, both of which I found value in, but you don’t need them to get started and achieve immediate results.

This technique interrupts psycho-kinetic patterns (conscious/subconscious-physical) that create chemical responses in Our bodies which We interpret as stress, fear, panic, confusion, depression, etc. The technique then permits you to re-pattern your response by identifying and acknowledging your process that triggers the negative responses.  With practice and choice, you can trigger positive chemistry, emotions, and responses.

Of course, there are always people claiming that something doesn’t work – when what they mean is that they FAILED to work it!  When you take a look at these critics, they are far too often pushers of Big Pharma poisons and/or out to sell some product of their own.  I advise you to consider what is most important to you: choosing natural techniques that give you the power, or choosing the fast-track-pill-approach – which inevitably leads to toxicity, more pills, new maladies, and starting from the beginning with your “issues” all over again… and again… because you avoided dealing with them in the first place.  Choose wisely.

  • Albert Einstein is credited with saying that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing time and again and expecting a different result.

Best of all:

Imagine if better parents taught their children to be in charge of their emotions instead of being allowed to act out…  Imagine how much better your life would have been if you had the control when you were a kid?

Have the control now.

Check out The Tapping Solution. There is a link to a YouTube video where a lovely, young lady walks you through the technique in under 4 minutes. You should notice immediate results.

Here’s to YOUR creativity and power!


If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*.  Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning.  Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD.