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The True Discipline

September 12, 2010

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

Every time i see my former Mistress with Her new sub, I am upset.  i don’t know why, since Mistress and i parted ways very well, i truly want Her to be happy, and i am now collared.  i am afraid to share my feelings with my present Domme because She may need to discipline Me and She is a hard disciplinarian.  What should i do?  Thank You, slave t


Self-discipline is the only true discipline. You affect all there is at all times.

What happens on all levels is directly related to your perception and your choices.  Accept responsibility for them.

Think about how this concept looks in your life right now.  This is the key to creating your ideal reality.

Everything begins and ends with your Self.

Having said that, no matter what your Domme may do, the reality of this situation is that you are the one who has to change your behavior.  I believe in different strokes for different folks – literally.  Personally,  I would want My sub to come to Me with all emotional issues so that We can address them together to suit both of Our needs.  So, if you are afraid of your Domme, remember that it is your responsibility for accepting Her collar and you made the choice for this type of a D/s relationship.

So, consider carefully what the lesser of the evils will be!  Take action quickly so that your unresolved issues with your former Mistress do not compromise your happiness with your Domme.


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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning.  Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD.  As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking.  In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and Classic Fetish™ Events.  She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.