Day 1, Umoja, Unity: Gifts from Me Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 1: Umoja, Unity

December 26, 2013

For the next 7 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My Creative Expressions inspired by the Principles of Kwanzaa!  Why?  Because (1) gift-giving is one of My Fetishes and this is a series of special posts to address many questions I receive about maintaining your wellness: Mind, Body and Spirit; and (2) this venture is part of My continuing gifts to improve the state of the Fetish Scene (and beyond) today, which, as with all things, begins and ends with each of Us.  So, I give you opportunities to expand your awareness and education, and to enjoy being creative!

The Kwanzaa tradition was founded in 1966 by Dr. Maulana Karenga who created a uniquely, African-American and Pan-African holiday which is celebrated from December 26th through January 1st. Kwanzaa is related to many African celebrations of the first harvest.  (Read more on


Today, the first day of Kwanzaa’s Principles is Umoja (unity): To strive for and maintain unity in the family, community, nation, and race.


Pronounced: (oo-MOH-jah)

Symbol: Kikombe Cha Umoja “Unity Cup” represents family and community unity. When the Unity cup filled with water, juice, or wine, a little bit is poured out as reminder and respect for Our ancestors. The cup is then passed around and shared with those gathered, with each person taking a sip.   Note:  There are 7 Symbols of Kwanzaa.  I have included them in no specific order.

My contribution for Umoja and strengthening Unity with the worthy people in My Life are 2 posts about 2 Universal Principles: Forgiveness and Practicing Gratitude.  The bottom line: how you feel about everything in your life determines the quality of your life.  So, the smart thing to do is to find and use tools to create ways for you to handle the stresses and creepazoids in your life.

ALL great teachings and, now, scientific proof backs up the fact that your thoughts create/affect your reality.  It’s not so much WHAT or WHO is going on as it is HOW YOU CHOOSE TO DEAL with situations.

Forgiveness is for YOU because, as I had the honor of the Dalai Lama telling Me personally (I paraphrase): Karma is can you sleep at night.  You cannot change the past; you can only make peace for yourself to create an empowered and happy future.

Practicing Gratitude permits you to OWN YOUR POWER by taking back and maintaining your control of your own destiny by stimulating and activating the chemicals in your body that allow you to feel good.  And when you feel good,  you can do whatever you set out to do.  Utilize the “10 Things I Am Grateful For Today” exercise I describe in the post.

I find that Practicing Gratitude and Forgiveness allow Me to:

  1. be at peace with Myself about My experiences and learn from them, and
  2. connect with like-energies on deeper, more fulfilling levels.

How you see the Universe is how the Universe will be for you. – Dr. Ellie Drake

Ye shall be transformed by the renewing of your mind. – Romans 12:2, The Bible, King James Version

See related articles at the bottom of this post.

Good luck! You CAN do it!

Always MY Pleasure & The Best,
Mistress Didi*


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