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Releasing The Flying Monkeys: Balancing Karma & Retribution

This post is a letter I wrote to a very special friend who, though I’ve not yet met in person, I have a very special place in My heart for. She is one of the Shining Stars who pops up in your life just when you need them, whether you know it or not. Because of Her beautiful spirit and Her inspiring gifts, I shared one of My most joyous Life Lessons with Her. In keeping with the what I am creating with Ask Mistress Didi*, I share this post to encourage the brave people who are doing the work to BE Better. I appreciate all of you! And remember to remind your friends that you appreciate them, too!

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Dear Ms. Star,

Thank you, as always, for the lovely smiles you send! Other than the disappointing news You wrote about, I hope that life is treating You very well. It is quite the challenge to get past the nefarious actions of people who prove unworthy of Our considerations. So, here’s what I’d like to offer:

I am having an amazing journey! I would like to share this with You because, whether you know it or not, You have been a precious gift to Me in so many, many ways! I respect Your intelligence, integrity, and the beauty You share with The Whole. I believe that souls travel in groups to learn and that We have a special connection. If this is just My fantasy, well, I hope You enjoy reading about My Journey and that You are able to appreciate My revelations in My Truth! However, from Our interactions, I’m sure that what I share will be right on time for You.

My Solar New Year’s Commitment is to BEing true to Myself, Honoring how well I handle My “stuff” (which includes My Sadism, quelling My desires for retribution, and the enjoyments of watching offenders suffer), and to BEING Better. I knew from birth that sometimes what I can think and how I can feel are so intense that they even scare Me! So, I choose to work on that to be a positive contributor to Life on Our planet and in The Universe!

Unlike the vast majority of people, I don’t try to pretend that We don’t all have a duplexity [Genetics – a double-stranded region of DNA] of Sadist and masochist in Our natures. So, because I take responsibility for My nature, My heart, and My Spirit, I have committed My life to balancing My Karma. As a Libra, the duality of My Nature has always been challenging when I’ve based it on society’s rules – which are designed to imprison Us in disenfranchisement.

So, after 2 most recent years of thievery; heartbreak; deaths; sabotage from loved & trusted ones; loss of property, income, business, etc., I recognized how I need to be “able to sleep at night” to attend to My Karma — per My understanding of guidance I received from My audience with His Holiness The Dalai Lama. His Holiness told Me, when I asked about Karma — and referred to Jesus saying to turn the other cheek — that Jesus didn’t say to get beat up; that Karma is whether you can sleep at night – did you take care of yourself? If something in the past tortures you in the present (shoulda-woulda-coulda), it affects/creates your future as moment leads to moment. So, if someone slaps you and you didn’t take care of your needs in the moment for whatever reasons, it is your karma to learn and choose what to do to take care of your well-being from NOW (present) on (future) – even if that is slapping them back (My words; not The Dalai Lama’s!).

I realized that experiencing and expressing My Joy was impeded by My attachments to “other people’s interpretations of right/wrong.” And while I was treating people the way I want to be treated, their lack of self-love and awareness made them comfortable to treat Me like poo-on-a-shoe – down to finding fault with ME for stealing from ME (including betrayal, theft, abusing My kindness, etc.).

So, I wrestled with feeling sorry for them because of the stresses in their lives and all of the other crap that was taught to Me via the sociology-religious slavery doctrines (“conditioning”) that have nothing to do with The Golden Rule, and I found Myself regressing into a major case of “the grumpies.” Because I meditated on My Commitment to BEing Better, it became clear to Me that I was not Living My Truth! And I had that magnificent epiphany of FULLY Accepting MySelf! (Meanwhile, I thought I had accepted Myself a long time ago already…) Life is truly a Journey of Learning About Yourself.

Side Note: Talk about synchronicity: I’m listening to a new mix from one of My DJs and Teddy Pendergrass is singing, “You Can’t Hide From Yourself!”

I KNOW that I am a loving, giving, Goddess Healer (which The Universe has just confirmed with a position as Director of a special, medical-science, research project of My dreams!) and that one of My Purposes on the planet at this time is to be a guide to Happy Wellness. In order for Me to BE in My Purpose, I deserve to “BE Happy & Well in Truth.” And that looks like this:

I am clear on My intentions. Intentions are the root of all creations and define the value of all actions and, Karma itself. Somewhere along My Life, I picked up the belief that I am not to BE “human” with all of My emotions, desires, and thoughts BEing “valid.” I attribute this to My upbringing and special circumstances that defined My childhood and determined My approach to Life (“conditioning,” again). After all the “drama,” I am affirmed that My intentions come from a place of Love – even if others want to believe that when I do something FOR Me that it is against them. I am committed to loving Myself first in order to best love others and contribute to The Whole. This is the basis for “My Religion: SpiritualHedonism™” and how I WANT to BE and live My Life.

I forgive the offenders out loud. I RESPECTFULLY tell them to their faces, write them letters, make videos for them, write public blog posts, whatever works for ME to (1) have completion and (2) make sure that there is absolutely NO way that they do not have the opportunity to accept responsibility for their offenses. I ALWAYS apologize if I have wronged someone who has made Me aware of how they feel offended by My actions that have truly caused them any harm. And I make it a point to make amends (if warranted) and to be more careful in the future. It is the choice of offenders to do what they will do, but the knowledge of what they’ve done cannot be ignored or distorted to avoid their responsibilities for their actions.

I have released My Flying Monkeys! Coming from a Magickal Family, I’ve lived My entire life watching inexplicable things happen to people who offend Us and judging this to be wrongful uses of Our Energies (which may have been true in some cases, but Karma was always in play). I used to do a LOT of work to contain My Energies from directing “accelerated Karma” for all involved — which includes Me. My concern with MY Karma is the sole reason that so many people have not “spontaneously combusted” in one way or another! Now, I’ve removed all interests that I had in place for their protection, etc. No more of My “guardians” and “watchdogs” to safeguard them from the ramifications of their stupidities; they shall suffer their consequences without My generous interventions (which I believe were actually interfering with Karma where My conditioning made Me believe I was “being good” to have such care for those who offend Me).

Now, instead of mistakenly believing that I was enhancing My Good Karma, I’ve come to believe that I was retarding both My and the offenders’ Karmic travels. So, without wishing malice, I wish “accelerated Karma” for all of Us. Knowing My true intentions, I have no fear. I’ve released The Flying Monkeys and Karma is forever in My favor!

I have created I Win-I Win situations. Since I AM accepting My Truth, whatever offenders do, the seeds for Personal Growth have been planted. If they choose to be honorable, they will thrive and continue to have Me for the inspiration, motivation, feel-good-about-themselves-musings that they have taken Me for granted for in the past. However, each and every time they come to Me, I “water the Seeds of Awareness” that I’ve planted. If they choose to be despicable, their behavior is fertilizer for their deserved suffering to exponentially grow as constant reminders of how they’ve offended Me (and others). The offenders will (i) not be able to sleep peacefully, (ii) will actually look haggard to themselves and to others, and (iii) have all of the things that would normally happen via Karma, but which they WILL be aware of the connections to Me no matter how hard they try to ignore My seeds. And I get to watch them suffer from their own devices — provided I care enough to know about them at all! MUAHAHAHAHAAAAA!

I am clear that I do not delight in suffering; I delight in pleasure however one enjoys it without harming another. This is the tenet of My Fetish Lifestyle. And I delight in seeing Karma at work. To better deal with the disappointments of offenders, I consider their actions to be a balance of Karmic Debt so that I am free from past lifetime stuff that brought Us together in this lifetime, and that I will not “suffer” them in subsequent lifetimes. This thinking helps Me to accept a lot of crapazoola that has occurred in My Life and to move forward with Joy!

Best of all, I am free from that wretched feeling of needing retribution. I can BE and am BETTER than that! Karma has My back ~ and My front!

You know how epiphanies work: they can “take a long time coming,” but they are recognized instantaneously! Well, POOF! Puff of Practical Magick and [personal success info omitted to maintain privacy]. THIS is what makes Me KNOW and understand that, although some folks may not be able to understand My Epiphany as I described to You, it is definitely the right thing for Me to do to BE Happy & Well.

And this is why I have shared with You: I hope that My journey of Self-Judgment to an Epiphany of My Truth affirms You in remembering to Honor Your Truth. Our concepts of right and wrong, et al., are based upon the Grand Illusion that enslaves the populace in darkness. We are The Beacons of The Light and We MUST SHINE in Our Unique and Varied Ways. It does not serve Us to judge Our ways based on other people’s agendas; it is Our duty to accept Ourselves in totality to discover Our Truths to choose how We will work powerfully for Ourselves and The Whole.

Thank You for letting Me share My Joy with You, who are always a giver of Joy to Me!

Namaste.

Always MY Pleasure,
The Mistress Didi*
www.PartyDomme.com

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9/11 Evolved

September 5, 2016

Dear United States of America,

I write this as an offering to reconsider how We remember 9/11.

This wretched, “9/11 tradition” of assaulting Us by rehashing the events that brought Us terrible sadness does NOT allow Us to move forward in pride as a nation, as communities, as neighbors, as families.

It makes no emotionally-intelligent sense to continue to horrifically mourn the deceased for over a decade when We can honor each individual who perished on that day by celebrating their special gifts and contributions to their families and communities.

The attack on Our senses of non-stop, repeated footage of dreadful events is a tactic that keeps people docile with fear and loathing.

Instead of tuning into non-stop-replays of The Towers coming down all day long and replayed over and over again on what passes for news TV;

Instead of bombarding every channel with reading the names of the deceased for hours;

Instead of tuning into h8te-mongers at pulpits inciting anti-love tactics in the name of their all-might-money-gods;

Instead of staring at your brown-skinned and Muslim neighbors with suspicion; let Us consider evolving Our consciousness towards being a Better America;

Instead of participating in ghoulish practices that bring an entire country’s vibration down, wouldn’t you much prefer to hear:

♥ about the wonderful ways that the victims inspired people?

♥ about the foundations and good works done in their names?

♥ how their memories are now supporting Our Better Lives?

Wouldn’t you feel inspired to be an American by knowing how Our communities have grown stronger and moved forward from tragedy instead of being bombarded by what is actually whining – not remembrance, and certainly not honor for the deceased?

Every “religious” tradition has wisdom that serves for Us to live Better Lives. Judaism offers the tradition of sitting shiva, which refers to “a seven-day period of formalized mourning by the immediate family of the deceased.”

“The psychological brilliance of Judaism is nowhere more apparent than in its carefully ritualized structure for dealing with grief. The open expression of sorrow is permitted, even encouraged. Yet, beginning with the family’s arrival at their home after burial, a process is set into motion that leads the bereaved gently but firmly back to life and the world of the living. The first stage in this gradual process of healing is called shiva.” – ReformJudaism.org

Note: Coincidence? Shiva, “The Auspicious One,” is the Hindu deity who is “the Creator, the Preserver, the Transformer, and the Destroyer.” In spiritual traditions, Shiva embodies The Cycle of Life. Interesting…

It’s time to create a New 9/11 Tradition of honor and pride.

We have the opportunity to build Better Communities by Being Better Neighbors. We have the opportunity to learn about Our differences – like how We pray – to strengthen Our similarities – like how We love Our children.

Let Us start by taking the time to honor and remember what makes this country great and turn the annual 9/11 debacle into a Day of Inspiration. We don’t need constant reminders of the horror; We need reminders of Our Greatness as a country made up of many different cultures, peoples, beliefs, and ways to love to be encouraged to be an even Better America. We need these reminders because We are bombarded on a daily basis with the most negative news and awful behaviors of people at their worst and little to no time is spent celebrating Us at Our Best.

We can change this NOW, this 9/11 and every one thereafter, by choosing:

NOT to watch TV that day. (The same goes for turning your attention to gruesome news websites.) You don’t need to see those Towers fall ever again. If enough people tune out, media companies will feel the loss of advertising profits and attend to Our interests for a change;

To organize and/or attend a community building event. How fortunate We are to live in the internet age and have socializing websites like Meetup and even craigslist to find events to commune with like minds and energies;

To pay it forward. Do something for the future. In his wisdom and respect, President Obama declared 9/11 as a Day of Service, which is truly the highest way to honor Our deceased. Plant a tree; clean up a lot to create a community garden; see where there is a need in your community and show up to be a solution and contribution;

Learn something new. The more We know, the more We grow. Especially if you’re a parent, take the opportunity to learn something new with your children to encourage their love of learning and sharing ideas. A good thing to learn about would be a high-holy day in a tradition different from your own so that you may enhance tolerance in yourself and your children for a better today and tomorrow.

These are just a few suggestions that work for Me. Please, do your thing. The fact that you and I have as much freedom to do what We want to do as We have, already makes Us better off than the majority of the people on this planet.

Let’s not waste any more time festering in horror and being negative; let’s rise up with honor and integrity and be inspired by how We have strengthened as a nation from tragedy.

— This article’s Twin Towers painting: Original artwork by Jim Watts (2002)

Always MY Pleasure,
Mss Didi*
www.PartyDomme.com

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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips“) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and ClassicFetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

How To Handle Lizard-Brain Thinking Attacks

December 29, 2012

The following is a Domina101™Lesson that I offered while being attacked by “gruesome” for creating a post in an online forum where they congregate en masse:

lizard (Photo credit: sodaro,k)

Consider Water. When water is in a container where there is no flow of new water or anything else, the longer it remains in a state of stagnation, it putrefies and becomes distasteful and toxic to the point of deterioration that eventually taints/destroys the container that holds it – think slime.

When water has a consistent flow, it is refreshed with nutrients, life force energy, and “goes new places” to nourish and become part of larger bodies of water in the symbiotic process of Nature.

There are 2 types of people: those who see the “glass as half-empty” and focus on repression (stagnation); seeking everywhere to find fault to be insulted; spending their lives fearing new/unfamiliar concepts and resisting possibilities – especially for change & evolution – because they believe that “they” themselves will be invalidated – usually because they have misplaced “values” that originate from and perpetuate self-loathing -> putrefaction (slime). This “fight” impulse comes from “lizard-brain thinking,” – primitive, survival mode. they have a “poverty consciousness” in mind, emotions and spirit.

Then, there are people who see the “glass as half-full” and focus on abundance and expansion; who choose to be inspired to create and share; who seek knowledge and conversation (vs. argument); who have a healthy sense of self that is not defined by acquisitions or definitions by others; and who are continually on a path of self-improvement in order to expand the Joys of Living. They have a “prosperity consciousness” in mind, emotions, spirit and body.

Water seeks its own level. There’s an expression: There is only fear or love. FEAR = False Experiences Appearing Real. Lizard-brain thinking exists in a perpetual state of fear: primarily a fear of inadequacy – not being “good enough” (self-worth based on external influences) vs. accepting and permitting a constant level of personal growth via possibilities. Lizard-brain thinking fosters cowardice because it gives permission to (i) block self-reflection to avoid facing beliefs (real or imagined) in one’s inadequacies and (ii) remain in stagnation which usually leads to a vicious cycle of devolution. Lizard-brain thinking instigates that another person’s actions and intentions come from the lower-level, nefarious intentions of what lizard-brain thinking would do if ever in the same situation – which is seldom ever the case because lizard-brain thinking:

does not create, share, communicate, cooperate;

is ALWAYS reactive rather than responsive because it perceives everything as a threat;

seeks to destroy, hoard, belittle (slime) everything and everyone in order to believe in the illusion of its value in its stagnation;

operates from a belief that everyone and everything is trying to scam, steal, defraud, etc. because that is how lizard-brain thinking worships its god of money;

takes everything personally, as if all things in the world revolve around and care about its particular existence, and takes offense whether acknowledged or ignored;

dictates ignorance-based fantasies onto others’ realities rather than asking questions before jumping to conclusions;

ALWAYS seeks ONLY to support its limitations -even to picking words from a sentence and ignoring entire paragraphs to insist on “being right” from a place of ignorance and inexperience (and NEVER uses a dictionary or thesaurus to consider misunderstanding anything);

ALWAYS confuses Dominance and any expression of sense-of-self for bullying/being bullied (playing the “victim game”);

ALWAYS seeks an enemy (without exercising awareness to realize it is its own worst enemy) in order to feed on negativity. It rarely, if ever, recognizes that the amount of insults and denigration it expresses are a direct reflection of its amount of self-loathing; and

operates from a confused model of “power over” which prompts insistence that others are trying to invade/control its zone rather than learning that Self-Control (and the lack thereof) is the only real control there is.

EVERY time I share what I love, I am attacked by lizard-brain thinking. Even when I point out what is written on My Website (where ALL of the info I share is FREE) that the “paid” version of My eBook is to raise funds for My charities (and payment has been disabled for more than a year & the reason for this is also on My Website) ~ as have been the proceeds from the vast majority of events that I’ve produced ~ lizard-brain thinking seeks to play the “make-wrong game” because that’s how it is able to conjure a sense of value in its stagnant limitations.

My choice for living My Life is to believe that “My Cup runneth over” and I choose to find value from experiences. I choose Flow and make use of lizard-brain thinking attacks because:

those who are on My level of consciousness and life choices will actually read what is on the same pages of My website (and My profile) to discover what lizard-brain thinking refuses to acknowledge; and

lizard-brain thinking generates and feeds on negativity to maintain its toxic, comfort zone. Misery loves company.

So, the BEST thing that comes from EVERY lizard-brain thinking attack directed towards Me is that they serve for people I care to associate with to connect with Me, and for those I have no interest in to congregate with others in lizard-brain thinking away from My Domain. It’s a Win-Win – but lizard-brain thinking only perceives a Win if it creates a belief with all its might that someone loses. Watch what happens now…

Again, Water seeks its own level. I am seldom astonished by how many supportive, private messages I receive from people who don’t want to weather lizard-brain thinking attacks EVERY time I post to share – this time is no exception… in any way. I am not religious but, because I choose to flow in possibility and am responsible for My Own Life Choices, I find value in philosophies from a variety of sources:

Again, lizard-brain thinking chooses to perceive threats and, therefore, cannot appreciate pearls. I am not trapped in lizard-brain thinking and I have no fear of sharing My experiences with others. I KNOW that I never lose anything by sharing; that sharing is ALWAYS an opportunity to receive love. So, when I see a forum that states its purpose is for sharing and supporting the “community,” I share what I have and appreciate that others share what they have. If I don’t find value in something offered, I accept responsibility for My own thoughts and actions and do not invalidate the fact that someone else may find value from it.

It is My choice to evolve past MY negative reactions that may arise because, in reality, they serve ME to show where I have an opportunity to evolve My consciousness. I love Myself and so I brave this process! I discipline Myself to reject the entrapment of lizard-brain thinking’s cowardice. I honor Personal Responsibility.

Paraphrasing Romans 12:2 – New International Version 1984: “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what … good, pleasing and perfect…”

It is an individual’s choice for how he perceives in order to be able to receive anything. One cannot receive with a closed fist or a closed mind. You know the adage, you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. The bottom line is “How are YOU enjoying life?” I understand that the fact that I AM living My dream, My way , and inviting cool people to join Me is very scary to lizard-brain thinking’s choice of fear over love. Whether this choice is conscious or unconscious is evident in how you’re living in mind, body, spirit, and in love – or in its lack thereof. I am grateful that I have done and continue to do the work to be soooo much more fortunate than those who choose entrapment in lizard-brain thinking. It is scary, but the rewards are worth it.

One of the best rewards is the ever-increasing strength against “the ugly” that results from behaviors designed to mask self-loathing – which I let roll like water off of a duck’s back because I take pity on the perils of lizard-brain entrapment.

“Compassion brings peace of mind and with it better health; so cherish compassion.” Tweet by His Holiness The Dalai Lama 12/25/12

Here’s to evolution! By the way, what I’ve just shared is another FREE lesson from My Domain that I teach in workshops and via My FREE blogs. Responding to you gave Me the opportunity to present a new blog post for ALL the people on My mailing list and who follow Me via social media – which is MY purpose for MY mailing list! I sincerely thank you for being a part of this sharing! Another Win-Win! Happy & Prosperous Mind-Body-Spirit New Year!

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