Check In & Center of Attention

September 5, 2010

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

I thought it was beyond rude that [name omitted] kept interrupting You and tried to take over while You were giving Your presentation.  I wanted to slap her face off and am amazed how You kept Your cool and took control.  PLEASE tell me how You do it!  — J.T.


Well, J.T.,

Here’s what I do:

1)  I consider the source of aggravation before I take action, which makes everything else a lot easier.

2)  I Check In Before I Check Out.  I take a moment to see what’s going on with Me before I choose to put someone else in check.  Perception IS everything.  We all have moments when perhaps, We woke up on the wrong side of the bed and something simple can be THE most annoying thing at the moment.  I take a moment to acknowledge My feelings so that I can choose to respond rather than react.

As for [name omitted], I pity her for needing to be the center of attention without doing anything on her own merits to deserve it.  This latest outburst has finally made it unavoidably clear that she thrives to ride on My coattails with bad behavior in order to be noticed.  This is just sad.

It’s only good to be the center of attention when you know how to give back: your duty is to make those whose attention you have feel good about giving you their energy.

I don’t have to like a person to hope that she evolves to understand this lesson.  Here’s to hoping!

Always MY Pleasure,
Mss Didi*


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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and ClassicFetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

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