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The True Discipline

September 12, 2010

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

Every time i see my former Mistress with Her new sub, I am upset. i don’t know why, since Mistress and i parted ways very well, i truly want Her to be happy, and i am now collared. i am afraid to share my feelings with my present Domme because She may need to discipline Me and She is a hard disciplinarian. What should i do? Thank You, slave t

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Self-discipline is the only true discipline. You affect all there is at all times.

What happens on all levels is directly related to your perception and your choices. Accept responsibility for them.

Think about how this concept looks in your life right now. This is the key to creating your ideal reality.

Everything begins and ends with your Self.

Having said that, no matter what your Domme may do, the reality of this situation is that you are the one who has to change your behavior. I believe in different strokes for different folks – literally. Personally, I would want My sub to come to Me with all emotional issues so that We can address them together to suit both of Our needs. So, if you are afraid of your Domme, remember that it is your responsibility for accepting Her collar and you made the choice for this type of a D/s relationship.

So, consider carefully what the lesser of the evils will be! Take action quickly so that your unresolved issues with your former Mistress do not compromise your happiness with your Domme.

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips“) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and Classic Fetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

Surprised That I’m A Giving Goddess?

July 23, 2011

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

It was really a pleasure to meet You last night. After hearing rumors about You and [name omitted], I was very surprised that you are so kind and friendly. You treated me as if I mattered and I now understand that [name omitted] is jealous for more than the obvious reasons…. Sincerely, j

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I’m always astounded by the ridiculous misconception that to be a Dominant Sadist means to be ill-mannered, ill-tempered, selfish, greedy, and everything that the “hoochies-with-whips” abominate The Scene by being.

As I state on My Websites, I am a Giving Goddess. I do not wish to ever raise My voice, I prefer to make requests rather than demands, and I prefer to reward rather than to punish.

So, whenever I offer a Gift to The Community, I am saddened by the comments of appreciation including statements such as, “It’s nice to know that there are still kind people out there.”

It’s also disparaging that those who are offenders of The Scene have the ludicrous audacity to be offended when their offenses are not tolerated in My Domain. they band together with others of their kind to call Me “elitist” and a bitch. their lack of vocabulary comprehension is only slightly less than their lack of integrity.

First of all, I’m a BITCH = Being In Total Control of Herself (My Domain) and the only reason they’re whining is because they’re used to the “silly bitch syndrome” that their mothers effected by permitting them to believe that they are special without offering value to The Whole.

Second, if desiring to be around people with class, integrity, self-respect, and consideration makes Me elitist, I’m proud to be an elitist *snob* on top of that. I’m not a hypocrite; if I don’t respect a person, I don’t have anything to do with her/him.

I recognize My value by how I present Myself and My Gifts to The Whole. I walk My talk. I am secure enough in Myself to know that I do not lose anything when I share My beauty, talents, etc. Karma is a magnificent thing; what you offer returns to you multiplied.

Intelligent people know that kindness does not equal weakness. In fact, kindness gives you a powerful tool of revelation: people show you how they want to be treated. Being a sadist, I will take the opportunity to torture them with enlightenment, which, in itself, is a win-win for Me because I offer a Karmic good.

I return to My Mission of creating a Domain of honor, intelligence, creativity, beauty, and the opportunities for personal evolution through The Fetish Lifestyle. I realize that more than ever, My Mission is in place to serve the need of The Greater Good.

And I’m excited and energized by this!

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work?

August 7, 2011

This is an excerpt from My response to a post by the fabulous Jennifer Shelton at FemCentral. I’ve modified it to speak directly to you.

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Semantics. What one person calls “positive thinking” is called “mindfulness” by another person writing a book to sell. “Positive thinking” can also be included in chanting, meditation, and so many other modalities designed to gain control over FEAR = False Experiences Appearing Real.

In My experience, Positive Thinking is actually CHOOSING empowering thoughts and actions over dis-empowering ones. The same amount of time and energy spent on worrying about something that -could- happen can be spent on focusing on what you -want- to create and “Love Me Time” which allows you to get out of the way of achieving your goals. The stress that people choose to “think” with determines manifestation.

The bottom line is RESPONSIBILITY and ACTION. There is no one thing that is going to be a cure-all for every person. We are responsible for trying and adapting new things all the time and evolving along THE PROCESS OF OUR DEVELOPMENT. This requires commitment.

And cultural perspective is thrown in there, too. It’s not only what society tells you to want, it’s HOW you choose to want it. For example, “positive thinking” will only work as far as the whiny-person-who-believes-she-is-entitled-to-everything-without-making-an-effort is willing NOT to whine. In cultures that expect instant gratification and permanent healing from a pill, the idea that TOOLS such as “positive thinking,” meditation, affirmation (and everything else that is designed to RE-CONDITION your thought processes) actually require continuous exercise immediately makes people insist that the TOOLS do not work. In reality, people are not “working the tools.”

Such laziness and lack of gratitude for all that IS available to Us to figure out how to work for Our individual needs is why We have a society of fat, lazy, slovenly individuals suing McDonald’s for the fact that they CHOOSE to eat the toxic food rather than do the work to eat healthily.

All of this relates to self-worth; do you believe you are WORTHY of what you desire?

You are not entitled to anything; you have to do the work to DESERVE everything. You have to Work Your Magick (which IS everything that you choose to design in your life).

The Comfort Zone of “focusing on being the victim” is the perfect way for all these people to get rich writing books, etc., for and against everything that has worked throughout “herstory” to validate people staying in their comfort zones and whining about it.

It’s not that something that has been proven to work for a multitude of others “doesn’t work;” YOU aren’t working it.

Discipline is a good thing and self-discipline is the greatest of your powers.

Always MY Pleasure,
Mss Didi*
www.PartyDomme.com

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips“) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and ClassicFetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.