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The True Discipline

September 12, 2010

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

Every time i see my former Mistress with Her new sub, I am upset. i don’t know why, since Mistress and i parted ways very well, i truly want Her to be happy, and i am now collared. i am afraid to share my feelings with my present Domme because She may need to discipline Me and She is a hard disciplinarian. What should i do? Thank You, slave t

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Self-discipline is the only true discipline. You affect all there is at all times.

What happens on all levels is directly related to your perception and your choices. Accept responsibility for them.

Think about how this concept looks in your life right now. This is the key to creating your ideal reality.

Everything begins and ends with your Self.

Having said that, no matter what your Domme may do, the reality of this situation is that you are the one who has to change your behavior. I believe in different strokes for different folks – literally. Personally, I would want My sub to come to Me with all emotional issues so that We can address them together to suit both of Our needs. So, if you are afraid of your Domme, remember that it is your responsibility for accepting Her collar and you made the choice for this type of a D/s relationship.

So, consider carefully what the lesser of the evils will be! Take action quickly so that your unresolved issues with your former Mistress do not compromise your happiness with your Domme.

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips“) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and Classic Fetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

Surprised That I’m A Giving Goddess?

July 23, 2011

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

It was really a pleasure to meet You last night. After hearing rumors about You and [name omitted], I was very surprised that you are so kind and friendly. You treated me as if I mattered and I now understand that [name omitted] is jealous for more than the obvious reasons…. Sincerely, j

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I’m always astounded by the ridiculous misconception that to be a Dominant Sadist means to be ill-mannered, ill-tempered, selfish, greedy, and everything that the “hoochies-with-whips” abominate The Scene by being.

As I state on My Websites, I am a Giving Goddess. I do not wish to ever raise My voice, I prefer to make requests rather than demands, and I prefer to reward rather than to punish.

So, whenever I offer a Gift to The Community, I am saddened by the comments of appreciation including statements such as, “It’s nice to know that there are still kind people out there.”

It’s also disparaging that those who are offenders of The Scene have the ludicrous audacity to be offended when their offenses are not tolerated in My Domain. they band together with others of their kind to call Me “elitist” and a bitch. their lack of vocabulary comprehension is only slightly less than their lack of integrity.

First of all, I’m a BITCH = Being In Total Control of Herself (My Domain) and the only reason they’re whining is because they’re used to the “silly bitch syndrome” that their mothers effected by permitting them to believe that they are special without offering value to The Whole.

Second, if desiring to be around people with class, integrity, self-respect, and consideration makes Me elitist, I’m proud to be an elitist *snob* on top of that. I’m not a hypocrite; if I don’t respect a person, I don’t have anything to do with her/him.

I recognize My value by how I present Myself and My Gifts to The Whole. I walk My talk. I am secure enough in Myself to know that I do not lose anything when I share My beauty, talents, etc. Karma is a magnificent thing; what you offer returns to you multiplied.

Intelligent people know that kindness does not equal weakness. In fact, kindness gives you a powerful tool of revelation: people show you how they want to be treated. Being a sadist, I will take the opportunity to torture them with enlightenment, which, in itself, is a win-win for Me because I offer a Karmic good.

I return to My Mission of creating a Domain of honor, intelligence, creativity, beauty, and the opportunities for personal evolution through The Fetish Lifestyle. I realize that more than ever, My Mission is in place to serve the need of The Greater Good.

And I’m excited and energized by this!

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

Consider The Source

October 1, 2011

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

You witnessed an incident that should not have happened. [name omitted] offended me and I didn’t do anything to cause him to be so rude. I still think I did the right thing to roll my eyes and walk away, but the whole thing bothers me. What is the best way for me to handle this? Thanks, G

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Dear G,

My fabulous Grandmother always said: “Consider the source” whenever someone did something that disrupted My flow. That was some of the best advice that She ever gave Me ~ and She gave Me so much great advice!

How To Use This Great Advice:

1) Check In first to see what’s going on with you that is causing you to be disturbed by someone’s actions;

2) Choose what you want to do. In other words, choose to respond rather than react. Give yourself the power in the situation and choose your greatest well-being;

Clearly recognize the “quality of being” that the person who has annoyed you is putting forth. Translation: how is this person showing up? as a cool individual who may have made a mistake? as a complete jerk?; and

Most importantly, forgive them. Whether or not a person intends to disrupt your peaceful flow, it is YOUR responsibility that your flow is disrupted. Forgiving them frees YOU from any further care for or about them.

As We all know, there are too many lazy individuals who take the slimy way out and operate from the lowest levels of consciousness and personal responsibility. It is easier for you, in your best interests, to pity them for making self-defeating choices; there can never be true happiness when you choose to be less than your best.

If the saying: There is only fear or love is true, then these offenders are seriously lacking love in their lives – not only love from others, but self-love. That makes them pathetic and having compassion for them also frees you from further concern and bother because you can choose what you want to do from a place of clarity.

So, if you consider the source of the aggravation, you do yourself a great service by releasing all attachment to that aggravation. I find that allowing Myself to have pity on, but not to tolerate or excuse offenders, keeps Me able to maintain My Fabulous Flow. Yes, this requires a bit of discipline, but that is the entire point of Mastery ~ which always begins and ends with Mastery of The Self.

Honing your skill to recognize behavior that stems from a lack of self-love and awareness will strengthen your ability to Consider The Source. I offer Domme vs. dumme and submissive vs. substandard.

Always MY Pleasure,
Mss Didi*
www.PartyDomme.com

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If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mss Didi*. Remember your manners…

I’m a Domme, not your mom.

More of Mss Didi*s Words of Wisdom

Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, Mss Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips“) and Fetish Event Planning. Mss Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, Mss Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, Mss Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and ClassicFetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.